Sunday, January 10, 2010

No Good Shoulds

I am overwhelmed. I have started too many things that I can't finish right now.  My attic is full of shoulds.

I should do so many things.  I should change the baking soda in my refrigerator monthly.  I should exercise more.  I should drink less wine.  I should get up earlier and spend more time reading.  I should caulk my windows, till my future garden plot, dust, drink more water, and spend more time in meditation.  I should tip better, save more and check the air pressure in my tires more often.  I should write every day, call my mother more often and paint the cabinets in the kitchen. 

I should lighten up and clear out that attic.

What good is a should?  Does it make me a better person?  It seems that only a did or a does improves my life.  Should doesn't do anything but produce guilt.  And guilt is worthless. Worse than worthless.

So I have a big should dumpster and I'm dumping all those shoulds right now.  I choose instead to look at the things I do that are pretty cool.  I'm cutting myself some slack and I'll either do or I won't but I'm not going to feel guilty about it.  I'm busy.  I don't have time for guilt.

I do have time to feel good, however, and that is a priority. 

If it bothers you that my windows are streaky or that the baking soda in my refrigerator is over a month old, please feel free to do something about it.  If it worries you that I'm behind schedule on a writing project or that my garden isn't tilled, perhaps you should get a life.  That's what I'm doing.  And let me just say. . . .


  1. Well said! I will take these words to heart and make them mine!

  2. I second all that, but especially the part about WHOO HOOOO! Have a great day just doing whatever you are doing!! :)

  3. Good for you, Fay! Why in the world feel guilty over a bunch of crap in the attic, or the other things you mentioned?

    I have to draw the line, though, at old baking soda in the fridge. [Kidding]